Mean Girls

So I've mentioned before that one of my guilty pleasures is watching the Real Housewives series. Well recently, the first Canadian franchise show came out -- and it is dreadfully horrible. And it made me wonder: How/If my behaviour would change if I knew I was being filmed. I suppose that at first it would be affected but wouldn't you just sink into your old ways and end up acting the way that reflects who you really are? I tend to think so....Which doesn't say much then, for one (or most) of these Vancouverites.

In each show there seems to be a mean girl. But in this show, Jody seems like an absolutely horrible human being. Clearly, I am aware that these shows are kind of trashy, bringing out the worst in others for ratings - but I just can't believe how bad some women can be to each other. It's sad really.

It made me think about how we women treat each other and speak about each other. I think we have all said things that we have regretted for various reasons, but when you see things playing out like that on tv (edited of course to shape each individual) it just makes you think twice about what you are saying and how you are saying it. While I definitely have never been as outright mean as Jody seems to be, there are things that I have regretted. But one thing that I know for sure is this: as I continue to age and mature, I feel more and more comfortable in my skin, more confident, and generally more happy. I think that maturity does this to you.

And I think what shocks me most about these RHOV is that they should all know better. They should know that being mean, jealous and disrespectful is really immature. Especially at their age - even if you can't quite tell what that age is ;)

Also with age, I think women can better appreciate the value of our girlfriends. It's not about how many friends we have, but rather how good of a friend they are. Truly. Like when the shit hits the fan - The kind of friends who stick around are your true friends. I personally feel blessed to have some of these true friends in my life, and this reminder (watching a silly show on Slice) is good because I think at any one time, we have these kind of "mean girl" friends around - or simply friends who aren't good for us - or who don't being out the best in us. We women should be supporting each other and bringing each other up.

I'd like to leave you all with a great quote that I was reminded of last week. It's an Eleanor Roosevelt quote which a friend had displayed as her facebook status. It goes like this:

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

It is a reminder that power always resides within us and we either keep this power, or - give it away. And what makes us ever think that we should give it away?
Here's to good girlfriends and to amazing women - I truly love and appreciate the ones I have in my own life.