A lot of us have lost or surrendered our own ability (or the TRUST in our ability) to know what is right for ourselves. Instead, we are so quick to focus on what the ‘experts’ have to say. We assume that their general advice is correct for us too, without giving much or any thought as to whether it actually is appropriate. How do THEY know what’s best for US? And what makes them experts (about us) anyway?
I believe that we don’t spend enough quiet time with ourselves to even hear answers to questions we have circulating around in our heads. I know this is absolutely an issue for myself. I don’t listen to my own intuition, or the Universe, or God, or whatever you want to call it. Instead I look to books, other people, popular culture (hello, Google!) and even psychics(!!) to tell me what to do, believing that surely I couldn’t come up with these answers! What is that saying about myself??? (I don't trust you; you're not smart enough; you can't figure this out....)
I have recognized the need to make time to meditate, clear my head, and allow and trust for the right answers to flow to me. I also recognize that I need to slow my thoughts down and live more in the moment. I’ve known this for a really long time actually but I haven’t done it on a consistent basis. It's just so hard for me stop my brain from running at a million miles a minute so I have always found it incredibly hard and frustrating. But they say that when you find it the hardest to do, that that's when you need it the most.
Perhaps my inability to "tune-in" is part of the reason I am always over-thinking: What should I be doing with my life and my career? What would be the most fulfilling purpose for me? And maybe it also explains some of my anxiety...
So about a week ago, I downloaded an app called “Stop, Breathe and Think”. They have short meditations that I have been doing first thing in the morning. A family member of mine also highly recommended “Headspace”. I’m going to give that one a try too. Do you guys mediate? If so, do you use any tools (apps, CD’s, music, etc) when you do?